Tuesday, March 30th

We are now at 60 days on Reconcile. Something is changing in Toby. Although seemingly small things they are huge to us.

The last few days, Toby is eating his breakfast, in the kitchen without me there. Normally, Ken would have to move Toby's bowl to Toby's room to get him to eat. He would try it in the kitchen, but no eating for Toby there. This morning Ken put Toby's bowl down - not where I normally put it by the door. Toby kept going up to Ken and just looked at him as if he was trying to say something. After a couple times, Ken moved Toby's bowl to the spot I use and Toby ate his breakfast!!!! It was as if Toby decided he would eat, in the kitchen with Ken there - IF - it was in the right spot.

In the mornings, Toby does his run upstairs to greet me and will follow me down when I'm done doing my morning routine. Monday, when I went downstairs, Toby did not follow me. He fell asleep and when he woke up, must have decided it was okay to stay up there with Ken. This morning, Toby did the same thing, did not follow me downstairs. Instead, when Ken went to the bathroom to take his shower, Toby followed him and layed by the door until he was done. It's odd that all of a sudden, it's okay for Toby to be around Ken. Going for walks at night is now 'their' routine, doing the Daddy's Home happy dance is 'their' routine. Toby now runs to the window that faces the driveway to watch Ken come in, just like Buddy.

Maybe it's going to be a process of elimination for Toby. One by one he'll analyze the people in our lives and when he feels a trust, will accept them.